What Is Lament?

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Dear Heavenly Father, we pray that through the power of your Holy Spirit, you would use the content on this page to wrap your arms around our friend who lands here. Keep them from running away from you in their pain. Give them courage to express everything on their heart to you in faith that you hear, and you care, and you can do something about their pain. Reveal to them the depth of your love for them, that you would give your Son Jesus to die for their sins so that they would not have to fear your condemnation. Would you help them see you as you are—a loving Heavenly Father who can handle whatever emotion we express to you. And would you turn their inner turmoil into trust as they give their heart to you in prayer.  In Jesus' name we pray, amen.

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It's okay to cry

God has welcomed everyone who trusts in Jesus to pour out their hearts to him. He wants us to take our pain to him.

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Hebrews 4:16 ESV

Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.

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What Is Lament?

“I cry out to you,” reads the lyrics of a new song. In that simple expression, you find a succinct lesson on lament—that statement almost says all you need to know.

The person cries—not just talks, but expresses deep emotion, such emotion that words have turned to cries, even groans, and have melted into tears.

The person cries to God. If they cry to God, we can conclude a few other things. Crying to God assumes this person has some sort of relationship with him. It also reveals a certain kind of courage—believing that God wants to hear and even welcomes their cries.

It’s not often people cry in public. We like to not be seen in our distress, or we apologize at times when the tears escape. It takes humility to be willing to cry to God, just like it takes humility to cry before anyone else.

Notice also, the person cries to God, not about God. Crying about what God has allowed into your life without crying to him would be complaining, not lament.

Lament is taking our pain honestly to God.

You might understand the word lament in everyday language to mean being really, really sad to the point of probably making noise of it—wailing, crying, or changing into mournful dress. We might restrict lament to certain cultures or customs.

Biblically speaking, lament is expressing negative emotions to God.

Can I do that? Is probably your first question. The resounding answer of the Bible is Yes! Yes, you can! But there’s a way to lament that honors God, and one that does not.

First, it honors God when we cry out to him. That means we have accepted his welcome to do so, which we find all throughout the Bible in places like Psalm 62:8, which says, “Pour out your heart to him, for God is our refuge” (NLT).

It also honors God when we direct our sadness, anger, and frustration at him, rather than about him. When we honestly express to him our deepest pains, we are believing he cares, can answer, and is involved in those painful areas of our lives, even when we don’t understand or even like what he is doing.

Lament means taking our troubles to the one who is ultimately in control of our lives. God is not afraid of our anger or grief, or lack of understanding. He can take it. In fact, for those who trust in Jesus, he delights to call himself our Father. Running to our Heavenly Father in our pain draws us close to him and builds our relationship with him.

C.S. Lewis wisely understood God’s heart from the Scriptures, reminding us that “God doesn’t want something from us. He simply wants us.”

When you are deeply disappointed, profoundly angry, on the verge of a meltdown, holding back tears, numb with grief, God doesn’t want you to pull it together, or to just grit your teeth and pursue more spiritual disciplines, or act stronger. He wants you to run into his arms and tell all.

He would rather you tell him honestly all the dark thoughts running through your mind than have you retreat into the darkness alone.

And he will have things to say to you. He wants you to come to him because he is the only one who can teach you wisdom in the secret heart (Psalm 51:6)—he can reach where no one else can.

When you come to him, he will bind up your wounds (Psalm 147:3), speak truth to you (John 14:25-26), and remind you of his power, his goodness, and help you to trust him again (Psalm 13:5-6), which will ultimately lead you to rejoice in his care for you.

Lament leads to trust. Trust leads to rejoicing. And so lament changes us.

He loves us, after all. He proved it, too. Jesus Christ wanted you to know the joy of being close to his Heavenly Father. He knew you wouldn’t ever be perfect. In fact, he knew all the reasons you deserve to remain at a distance from God—so in an act of sacrificial love, he died the death your sins deserve to bring you to God (1 Peter 3:18). Jesus absorbed all of God’s anger towards you on the cross, so you could know God’s love for you (Isaiah 54:9-10).

If you put your trust in Jesus, and you call on the name of the Lord, he will not turn you away. He has done all that needs to take place for you to draw near to him. Will you trust him?

Psalm 62:8 says, “trust in him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before him.” The way to trust God is to boldly pour out your heart to him. So whatever has filled your heart, go, friend, and pour it before the Lord and expect him to meet you there.



What Is Lament?
Article: 10 Min

Grief: How Does the Bible Speak to Our Sorrow?




Lament turns to God in pain, tells him why we are sad, asks for his help, and leads us to trust.

by Mark Vroegop

Video: 2 Min
by Aubrey Sampson at Nav Press
Article: 7 Min

The Gift of Lament

by Ernie Baker at the Biblical Counseling Coalition


The ship of prayer
may sail through all
temptations, doubts and
fears, straight up to the
throne of God; and
though she may be
outward bound with only
griefs, and groans, and sighs,
she shall return freighted
with a wealth of blessings!

Article: 7 Min

What Are the Psalms of Lament?

by Got Questions Ministries


1 Samuel 1-3

Read about Hannah, how she handled her grief, and how her grief fit into God’s plan for his people.
Article: 10 Min

The Way of Lament

by Christina Fox at Ligonier Ministries


Trust in him
at all times,
you people;
pour out your hearts to him,
for God is our refuge.

Psalm 62:8 NIV

The Book of Lamentations

This book of poetry is an expression of deep sorrow. God preserved it in his Word to help us walk through grief.


Cry Out

by Roy Tosh feat. Quinten Coblentz

Praying Through Grief

by Samuel Chadwick

Great grief prays with great earnestness. Prayer is not a collection of balanced phrases; it is the pouring out of the soul. What is love if it be not fiery? What are prayers if the heart be not ablaze? They are the battles of the soul. In them men wrestle with principalities and powers… The prayer that prevails is not the work of lips and fingertips. It is the cry of a broken heart and the travail of a stricken soul.

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Video: 6 Min
by Chris Llewellyn at Rend Collective

Folk | Country Gospel

Weep With Me

by Rend Collective
Video: 3 Min
by Matt Chandler at The Village Church
Romans 8:26 NIV

In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.

Video: 1 Min
Messages: 41 Min

Learning to Lament:
Psalm 88

by Glen Scrivener

Psalms for the Grieving
Video: 1 Min
Article: 7 Min

Lament Like a Christian Hedonist

How Joy in God Bears Real Pain

by Matthew Westerholm at Desiring God

Psalm 42 ESV

As a deer pants for flowing streams,
so pants my soul for you, O God.
My soul thirsts for God,
for the living God.
When shall I come and appear before God?
My tears have been my food
day and night,
while they say to me all the day long,
“Where is your God?”
These things I remember,
as I pour out my soul:
how I would go with the throng
and lead them in procession to the house of God
with glad shouts and songs of praise,
a multitude keeping festival.

Why are you cast down, O my soul,
and why are you in turmoil within me?
Hope in God; for I shall again praise him,
my salvation and my God.

My soul is cast down within me;
therefore I remember you
from the land of Jordan and of Hermon,
from Mount Mizar.
Deep calls to deep
at the roar of your waterfalls;
all your breakers and your waves
have gone over me.
By day the Lord commands his steadfast love,
and at night his song is with me,
a prayer to the God of my life.
I say to God, my rock:
“Why have you forgotten me?
Why do I go mourning
because of the oppression of the enemy?”
As with a deadly wound in my bones,
my adversaries taunt me,
while they say to me all the day long,
“Where is your God?”

Why are you cast down, O my soul,
and why are you in turmoil within me?
Hope in God; for I shall again praise him,
my salvation and my God.

Video: 5 Min
by The Worship Initiative feat. Hannah Hardin & Bethany Bernard

Praise & Worship

Lord From Sorrows Deep I Call

by Matt Boswell and Matt Papa
Article: 10 Min

Dare to Hope in God: How to Lament Well

by Mark Vroegop at Desiring God

Jesus Weeps With You

The very heart of the
Christian message is
that the happy God
so loved our weeping world
that he gave his own Son
to weep with us, all the
way to the place of utter
forsakenness, that
whosoever believes in him will not weep forever,
but have everlasting joy.

Mark 15:34 NKJV

And at the ninth hour Jesus cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachthani?” which is translated, “My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?”

Video: 5 Min
Article: 10 Min

Jesus Wept

by David Mathis at Desiring God


Tears on Your Face

by Bethany Barnard
Video: 4 Min
by Glen Scrivener at Speak Life
Isaiah 53:3-6 ESV

He was despised and rejected by men,
a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief;
and as one from whom men hide their faces
he was despised, and we esteemed him not.

Surely he has borne our griefs
and carried our sorrows;
yet we esteemed him stricken,
smitten by God, and afflicted.
But he was pierced for our transgressions;
he was crushed for our iniquities;
upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace,
and with his wounds we are healed.
All we like sheep have gone astray;
we have turned—every one—to his own way;
and the Lord has laid on him
the iniquity of us all.


Chill & Relaxing

The Silence of God

by Andrew Peterson
Matthew 26:38 NLT

He [Jesus] told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me.”


The first man [Adam]
sinned and grieved only
for himself, but
the second Man [Jesus]
knew no sin
yet grieved for us
so that we would
not grieve forever.