When Your Parents Divorce

From the Team: 
Dear Heavenly Father, please draw near to our friend who lands on this page and use their experience here to comfort their broken heart. Please plant faith in their heart—faith that you are not like an earthly father, and will never ever leave or forsake those who trust in you. Please plant hope in their heart, hope that you are a miracle working God who can clean up the worst messes and bring good even out of terrible circumstances. Help them believe their story is not over. Remove the lie from their hearts that they play any role in their parents’ divorce. Send them people to hang out with them, train them, and meet their needs. Most of all, introduce them to Jesus, the friend who sticks closer than a brother. In Jesus’ name we pray, amen.  

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This hurts like nothing else

Friend, few things are more painful
than experiencing your parents’ divorce.
It’s only normal to feel broken. 

Theme Verse
Psalm 34:18 ESV

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted
and saves the crushed in spirit.

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Where to Run When Your Parents Divorce

Life really hurts sometimes. Few things hurt so much as when your parents get divorced.

The Bible is honest that we live in a pain soaked world (Genesis 3:6-9; Romans 8:20-23; Job 5:7). It doesn’t record a fairy-tale. Instead, it tells us countless stories of real people sailing life’s stormy seas in this fallen world. If the stories within the Bible could bleed, the pages of the Bible would be soaked in tears.

You may feel very far from God right now. Unanswered questions like “why would God let this happen to me and my parents” may make you not want to talk to God. That’s understandable.

The people in your life that have earned and deserved your greatest trust have let you down, and that’s an understatement. Parents, according to God’s design, were intended to help us see a reflection of God in their protection, provision, care, and authority. But not only are the best parents only a dim reflection of God. Because they are imperfect—sinners even—they can also damage the picture we are supposed to see of him.

God hates divorce for many reasons—partially because it hurts your view of him. We read in the Bible, God’s own Word about himself, that “it is impossible for God to lie” (Hebrews 6:18 ESV). This means there is no promise God makes that he will ever break—ever. He doesn’t change his mind—ever. This is what makes him trustworthy. In fact, the Bible describes God’s people as those “who have fled to him for refuge” (Hebrews 6:18).

One of the most awesome truths woven throughout the whole Bible is that God is a safe place for all who put their trust in him—can you believe it?! God, the one who made the roaring sea, and the mountains, and who sets up kings and lives forever—he’s safe, and gentle, and kind! And the reason he’s worthy of your trust is that he never, ever, ever lies. He never breaks his Word.

It might feel like there’s no one to run to, no one worthy of your trust. When trust has been broken, it’s so hard to trust anyone again. We understand that.

But we want to challenge you to believe, believe that God is different from your parents. Run in his direction, not away from him. Pain will drive us one of two places—into God’s arms, or far away from him in suspicion. The way to run to God is to open your Bible—open to Psalm 34, or Psalm 23, or read Joseph’s tough story in Genesis 37-50. And talk to him. Tell him everything. Tell him how bad it hurts, ask him your tough questions—he can take it. He welcomes you to “cast your cares on him, for he cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).

We pray that when the pain makes you want to run, you’d run to him, into his strong and loving arms. It is the only place we have learned is truly safe to flee to in our pain.



How to Have Hope After Your Parents Divorce?
Video: 10 Min
by Russell Moore
on his YouTube Channel
Article: 12 Min

Broken Homes
in the Bible

by Richard Pratt Jr. at Ligonier Ministries


Need You More

Video: 2 Min
by Matthew West
at Essential Worship

Praise & Worship

No One Ever Cared for Me Like Jesus

by The Worship Initiative feat. Davy Flowers
John 14:15-17 NLT

If you love me, obey my commandments. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Advocate, who will never leave you. He is the Holy Spirit, who leads into all truth. The world cannot receive him, because it isn’t looking for him and doesn’t recognize him. But you know him, because he lives with you now and later will be in you.

Praise & Worship

Wide Open

by North Point Worship feat. Clay Finnesand
Matthew 11:28-30 NIV

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Video: 5 Min


I Will Carry You

by Ellie Holcomb
Psalm 46:1-2 ESV
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea
Video: 3 Min
Ephesians 1:5-8 NLT

God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. So we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son. He is so rich in kindness and grace that he purchased our freedom with the blood of his Son and forgave our sins. He has showered his kindness on us, along with all wisdom and understanding.


Even if
my father
and mother
abandon me,
the Lord will
hold me close.

Psalm 27:10 NLT

Folk | Country Gospel

You’ll Find Your Way

by Andrew Peterson
Article: 10 Min

When Your Grey
Haired Parents
Get Divorced

"It can feel like the ground beneath us is crumbling.
In these moments, we have
to remember that our firm
foundation is not found
in our earthly families—
it’s found in Jesus Christ."

by Chelsea Stanley at The Gospel Coalition

Psalm 138:7-8 ESV

Though I walk in the midst of trouble,
you preserve my life;
you stretch out your hand against the wrath of my enemies,
and your right hand delivers me.
The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me;
your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever.
Do not forsake the work of your hands.

Article: 10 Min

Hope for When
Honoring Your
Parents is Hard

by Chelsea Stanley at Unlocking the Bible

Psalm 56:8 NLT

You keep track of all my sorrows.
You have collected all my tears in your bottle.
You have recorded each one in your book.

Messages: 43 Min

Faith for

by Colin Smith

Rhythm & Blues

I'll Find You

by Lecrae feat. Tori Kelly
Article: 7 Min

To Daughters
from Broken Homes

by Calley Sivils at Desiring God

Deuteronomy 10:17-18 NIV

For the Lord your God is God of gods and Lord of lords, the great God, mighty and awesome, who shows no partiality and accepts no bribes. He defends the cause of the fatherless and the widow, and loves the foreigner residing among you, giving them food and clothing.